Do Not Expose Him To Failures!!

"Do Not Expose Him To Failures!!"

I overheard a school principal telling a disheartened mother. Being brought up under the influence of a school of thoughts which said ‘Try and try again and again, and you will succeed at last’, I couldn’t help asking the very sad mother what the problem was.  The mother replied in most defending manner, “My son is very brilliant. He is only 12 years old and has won many prizes both in academics and in sports. He is school Captain, but the school which he is studying in is not the best school in the country and for last three years, I am trying to get him admitted to this particular school which is the best school in the whole world. Every year, he appears for entrance tests for this school. Every year, the school is giving admission to ‘10’ new students but they are rejecting my son. I am shocked and worried about my son’s future”. I gave a comforting nod to the woman and told her, “Madam, please give serious thought to what the principal has said. It is not a fault of your son that every year, there happen to be ‘10’ better students than him”.

We often tend to think that life is a race and only those who lead the pack can get the best of everything. Nothing can be further away from truth than this. Life is not a RACE, life is a JOURNEY. Reaching destination is not the purpose of life. Also, every person has a different destination to choose from a multitude. Participating in journey is the purpose. Life is buffet, wherein you have to enjoy every dish, slowly and comfortably.  

One must move in the comfort zone that suits him or her most. Within our comfort zone, we are always happy. One must try to analyze and understand one’s capacity, likings, aptitude and the situation in order to know the comfort zone.  If one is moving with a pace and style which is comfortable, then life is fun. Then, one can see flowers blooming, can listen to birds singing and can enjoy sound of rain drops. In your comfort zone, it is easy to clap for and cheer for those who are zooming ahead. 

At the end of the day, the happiest person is not the one who has striven , struggled and reached the goal but the person who can sincerely, wholeheartedly applaud and clap for other person’s success.

We all are like that ‘12’ year old son and we also do play role of that lovely mother but we must make sure that we “We Do Not Expose Him to Failures”.

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Why Do We Cry?

We live through chain of emotions. Our very existence is based on emotions. Without emotions, we will be reduced to machines or low life forms, as we think those are. Humans are intelligent beings. We have minds and brains with infinite storage capacity along with instantaneous Retrieval and Replay mode. We can relive past. We can plot and live in future. We can do so through medium of emotions and express the feelings externally as smile, laugh, wonder, anger, hate, anguish and so on but when our emotions are most intense we “CRY’.

If one tries to analyze personal incidences of crying, then one would realize crying is very inner and very personal expression of one’s emotions.  You will not cry no matter how the grim situation may be unless you associate yourself with the situation. You cry when you place yourself in the heart-touching scenario. You cry most of the times when you feel that it could have been you or somebody very close to yourself.  You cry when you are helpless and cannot soothe pains of your loved one.

You may hear about very sad, disheartening incidence, but you will find you are not crying. However, somebody else is crying inconsolably on hearing the same story. You do not cry because you are not connected and the other person is.  

Here is a sad story. Parents had to consent amputation of their daughter’s leg as that was the only remedy available to control spread of the cancer she was suffering from. Till then, their daughter was thinking that come what may, she had her parents to protect her, save her. That day she realized that even her parents cannot help her. That day those parents cried. They cried not because their daughter was going to lose her leg but because their daughter had lost faith in them.

Lord Alfred Tennyson in his poem ‘Home They Brought Her Warrior Dead’ says “She must weep or she will die”. Warrior’s widow is not crying even on seeing her dead husband’s body but she wept when “set his child upon her knees”.

I read this heart touching poem on internet ‘I went to a party, Mom’. The poem is about young girl who went to a party and did not drink because her Mom told her so, but on the way back after the party was over, she gets knocked down by a boy who chose to drink and drive. At the end, the dying girl said that she wanted her mom to know that she didn’t drink, but why was she punished?

Then there are wars stories, stories about plane crashes, car or train accidents, Tsunamis and cancer patients. There are stories about personal tragedies and untimely deaths but there will be stories which will make you cry and there will be some that may just make you sad.

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Artist: Edvard Munch
Year: 1893,
Type: Oil, Tempera and Pastel on cardboar
Dimension: 91 cms X 73.5 cms
Was sold for 120 million US$.